If you make up your mind that you won’t like something, it has a tendency to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The thing to do, is to try many things. Even something as mundane as walking up stairs for 10 or 20 floors, is genuine exercise. In an office building, you’re very unlikely to meet many people there, too. I and a couple friends, do 12 floors twice a day. We walk to lunch (minimum 1/2 mile, often up to 1-1/2 miles), and just enjoy each others’ company.
You and your wife might try doing a 45 minute to 1 hour walk three or four times a week. It will bring you closer to one another, and will give you both exercise, too. When I’m not training people, I’m a Java programmer for a large financial company. I play video games, surf the web (how I found you, in fact!), and try to help people to get fit. I have a whole website with lots of information, and no blinking, annoying ads. I have nothing to sell you, either, so have no fear – there is no charge for admission, and no “subscription”. The URL is in my .signature, below. Read the first article, and continue on to the second, which has a BMR calculator for you to use to get started.
You want to get fit, you want your wife to get fit, then the best thing to do is to simply begin the journey. If you don’t try, you’ll never succeed. Write to me any time, too, and I’ll give you encouragement, counsel if you need it, or a kick in the butt if you need that. But Kenneth, the main thing I want you to do, is get off your ass and get started. Now. You’re the only one who can make it happen for you.